The real reasons behind hitting at every age and the first-response sequence that stops reinforcing the behavior.
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Beyond Hitting Course
Your kid bit someone at daycare and you got the call. This course covers why young children hit, bite, and kick, what makes it worse, and the responses that bring it down over time.
Step-by-step responses for biting, hitting, and kicking as it happens
Covers ages 1 through 8 with age-specific strategies
13 illustrated lessons. Audio narration included.
What's inside
13 lessons with illustrated guides and audio narration.
Scripts and responses for the moment small fists connect with your face. What to say, what to skip, and how to stay calm.
Why you are the target, what that means about your relationship, and how to use that trust as the foundation for change.
Age-appropriate boundaries for kids who are too old to still be hitting and the calm holdable response that replaces freeze-and-absorb.
How to spot the jaw clench early, redirect without yanking, and break the biting cycle before it becomes a habit.
One calm sequence for every physical behavior instead of improvising a different reaction each time.
What to say to the teacher at pickup, what to skip with your child, and how to handle peer aggression from both sides.
How to separate without siding, comfort without rewarding, and debrief without delivering a lecture.
How to read your child's body cues and pick the right strategy before the aggression escalates.
How to shift from bracing for the next hit to watching your child pause and choose differently on their own.
How to address what your child actually needs so the label stops defining them at school and at home.
How to hear the worst sentence your child can construct and respond to the feeling, not the words.
What falls within the normal range and what signals it is time to bring in professional support.
It's evidence-based
Grounded in developmental science. Not just our opinion.
Which skills are trainable at which age, how children develop systems thinking, when critical reasoning emerges. That comes from decades of developmental psychology research. We studied the science, then built activities that work in real family life.
Bruce D. Perry
Psychiatrist behind the neurosequential model and the critical "Regulate, Relate, Reason" sequence used to connect with distressed children.
Daniel Siegel & Tina Payne Bryson
Authors of The Whole-Brain Child, providing foundational strategies for integrating logic and emotion to nurture developing minds.
Stephen W. Porges
Creator of Polyvagal Theory, identifying the distinct nervous system states of safety, fight/flight mobilization, and shutdown.
Adele Diamond
Neuroscientist specializing in executive functions, defining the biological developmental limits of impulse control and reasoning in young children.
Bruce E. Compas
Researcher on coping styles, distinguishing between helpful regulation and harmful strategies like suppression, avoidance, and rumination.
John Bowlby
The father of attachment theory, establishing that secure emotional bonds are the absolute prerequisite for independent emotional regulation.
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Common questions about Beyond Hitting
This course covers strategies for children from toddlers through early teens. Each lesson includes age-appropriate variations so you can adapt the approach to your child's developmental stage.
Free advice gives you isolated tips. This course gives you a complete system: sequenced lessons that build on each other, with scripts you can use word-for-word and illustrated guides for quick reference in the moment.
Each audio lesson is 15–20 minutes. Designed to fit during a commute or nap time. The strategies integrate into moments you already have with your child, so there's no extra schedule to maintain.
Full refund within 30 days, no questions asked. If you don't find it valuable, you don't pay.
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When Your Child Hits Response Flowchart
a printable decision tree for what to say and do when your child gets physical — covers hitting, biting, throwing, and scratching.